L.I.T. Travel

Ok so maybe I was wrong for ending my last post with that announcement but it was for good reason. I promise! SO where do I start? I met my ex on a trip. Let me clarify for those of you who know me. We knew of each other prior to the trip but we met and got to know each other on a family trip. He was best friends with one of my family members and this was a family and friends trip to Destin, Florida. We chartered a bus and it just so happened that he and his mom sat in front of me.

This led me to think and believe that he liked to travel, trust me we talked about travel and the need for vacations during our brief courtship. He later admitted that he did not like to travel as much as I did. We were married for 4 years before we separated and was separated for 6 months before I filed for divorce. Our divorce was amicable to the point that I typed it up, filed it, and he signed it the same day… IT is so amicable that we still go to church together. Look at God!!!!

Let me explain that last sentence. I was married to a preacher. YES!!! I was a preacher’s wife, the first lady of all things! LOL I know, shocking huh?! He still preaches and I still will go there and worship. Some people will find that strange but I find that a blessing. My parents are living examples of what forgiveness looks like and because of that, I have so many great memories. When you learn to truly forgive you can truly let go. I was hurt really bad in my marriage and went through somethings others would have a hard time forgiving. But I refused to allow my life to be one of bitterness and anger. I knew better was waiting for me and I couldn’t get better if I held on to never.

Never moving forward, never being happy, never forgiving, never understanding, never growing, never loving, just NEVER. Who wants that life? So I worked daily on forgiveness, releasing my pain, and trusting that God would see me through. My ex and I are able to have conversations and laugh. Imagine that. Do I talk to him often? Absolutely not. We speak when we see each other and every now and then he would call or text to check on me. If something happened with someone we know we would talk and discuss that. Because that part of my life is over there has to be boundaries.

I never wanted to be divorced. I didn’t get married to be unmarried. BUT I can say that I tell people I am happily divorced because folks will start a pity party you don’t need and didn’t ask for. So please don’t feel sorry for me when I don’t feel sorry for myself. I’m blessed. I’m favored. I have no regrets about anything that I went through in my marriage because it has taught me so much about myself, what I needed to change, and where/who God wants me to be.