L.I.T. Travel

Six months prior to my divorce my ex-husband and I separated. It was during this time that I realized that we were not going to be trying to work it out because he no longer wanted to be married. It was at that point that I was like…ok. Now what?! I was truly in a moment, a time, a place of transition in more than one way. My daughter was getting ready to graduate from high school, my marriage was over, I was no longer a first lady (nor did I have the responsibilities of being one), and I was walking into a lot of NEWNESS.

During this six month period, I spent a lot of time dating myself, enjoying my own company, being selfish with me to a certain extent (at least until May, daughter’s GRADUATION LOL). I went out by myself more, whether it was a movie or a restaurant. I enjoyed every minute of it. I rediscovered myself. What I liked and didn’t like without having to be mindful and considerate of someone else’s time or feelings, wants and needs. AND IT FELT REALLY GOOD! I began to really travel by myself.

What started this movement of self-awareness was a trip, well a girls trip I planned, that would include two of my sisters and 2 of our sister/friends. I paid for a week-long stay in Vegas and all they had to pay for was their flight and any spending money they would need. Needless to say, everyone dropped out!!! Everyone!!! I was so disappointed and began to think about how I was going to have to cancel this trip…Then it came to me. Why am I basing the existence of a trip on the availability of others? Why do I have to go with them in order to go?

So the petty in me was like “I’m going to still go on this trip. I’m going to take pictures and post them on social media so they can hate”. Petty I know but I still did it, LOL I made sure my flight going and coming was 1st class, I wanted to go all out on myself. Trust me when you fly more than six hours and you have the funds book yourself a 1st class flight. You will not regret it. I will create a post about my first 1st class experience later.

While I was in Vegas the trip never was about just showing them what a great time I was having and how they missed out but it was about me HAVING a great time. I focused on the feelings I was experiencing in this new transitional moment. The freedom that each life change brought me in a way I had never experienced before. Think about it, all of my adult life I had a child that I had to consider and think about whenever I made a decision and for the first time as an adult… I DIDN’T. Vegas was the beginning of me Dating myself! For that, I will always love her…

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